1. Does losing your virginity really hurt? We tell you
There is certainly a lot of hype surrounding first time sex. While some call it a life-changing moment and something you may remember all your life, others are of the notion that it is not THAT big of a deal. However, there is a consensus that doing it for the first time can also hurt a bit (or lot) depending on your threshold.
2. The first time
So women, before you squirm with the thought of intercourse, keep in mind that vaginal penetration doesn’t necessarily have to be painful. However, you may expect a little discomfort and even confusion during the first time.
3. 3 tips to make it less painful
Remember to take it slow
There are a couple of reasons why having sex for the very first time might be a little painful. A lot of times we become so stressed with anticipation that we clench our muscles, which makes the whole process difficult, instead of enjoyable. Remember to choose a time and place you are comfortable with, so that you do not get anxious with the settings and can finally let your guard down.
4. Stretch your hymen
Secondly, an unstretched hymen can also be blamed for the pain. For the uninitiated, the hymen is a thin tissue which covers the external vaginal opening. A lot of women may already have broken their hymen due to extensive physical activities or may not have one, to begin with. However, if an unstretched hymen is your issue, you can gradually stretch it by using your fingers and pushing it back. You can also try using lube for added comfort.
5. Indulge in foreplay
Lastly, a lot of couples do not understand that the lack of arousal may also cause pain. When a woman is aroused, her vagina is wet and it also expands to accommodate the penis. In this case, foreplay can help in minimizing the pain and increase pleasure.
6. The bottom line
In order to enjoy yourself the first time you have sex, it is important to have realistic expectations. Planning the place and time can help you reduce the anxiety that comes with the anticipation.
Ultimately, remember that communication with your partner is key. If you feel uncomfortable with a position or anything regarding the whole situation, it is best to take it slow and talk about it.