Sometimes, we are surrounded by such ambiguity in a relationship that it might not be easy to say ‘I love you too’ to the person who loves you the most. Chances are that you might be in love but still not ready to say the three words. Reasons might be many—maybe you need more time, or maybe you are still waiting for the right moment because for you these three words hold a lot of importance. So, when your partner says ‘I love you’, you cannot merely thank him or her and then keep quiet, right? So, here are a few things to say when you are in love with a person but do not want to utter the three magical words.
“I feel the same way but…”
This is one of the best ways to express your feelings without having to say, ‘I love you too’. You can gently tell the person that you reciprocate his or her feelings but at the same time explain the reason why it’s not easy for you to say the three words.
“It means a lot to me”
Honesty is the best policy here. You can tell your partner that his expression of love means a lot to you. This would make the person feel appreciated and he or she would be touched by your honesty. Because when you say, ‘I love you’ without even meaning it, your action would give away the lie. So, it is better to be honest rather than say things which you don’t mean just to please the other person.
“I have never experienced such emotions and am still trying to understand”
This is a very strong statement to make and say it only when you are sure about it. A lot of times, we feel very strongly towards a person and are overwhelmed by emotions that are very difficult to understand. Under such circumstances, it’s wiser to take your time to first decode the emotions and then speak about your feelings. And when you explain these to your partner, he would definitely understand your dilemma and appreciate you more.
If you cannot say it, how about expressing it through writing
We can understand that a lot of people have trouble speaking about their emotions. For such people, writing about it might be the solution to their problem. You can send a mail or even a message, stating how you feel about the person. While you understand and appreciate his feelings, you need time to understand your own emotions. And if you want to give a personal touch to your message, you can even write a letter.
Whatever might be the situation, never fall for the pressure to say, “I love you too” when you are not ready for it. Rather, have a discussion with your partner, take your time, understand your feelings better and then speak about it.
By – TIMESOFINDIA.COM