1. Signs you are over dependent on your lover
When in a relationship, we all like to go on romantic dates, discuss almost everything with our partner and share a life of togetherness. However, there is a thin line of difference between being dependent and over-dependent on your partner. Relying too much on your lover can be detrimental for you and it can be a red flag for your relationship in the long term. If you are confused about whether your relationship is heading on the right path or not, here are some signs you can look for.
2. You don’t like to hang out with your friends and family
You intentionally avoid making plans with your friends and family and like to spend time only with your lover. If not this, you hang out with your near and dear ones only when your partner is busy somewhere else. You are slowly losing touch with your friends and eventually, ruining your social life.
3. Your plans are dependent on your partner
Whether it is going for a movie, grocery shopping or taking a vacation, you have become dependent on your partner for every little thing. You start making excuses the moment you are expected to do something all by yourself and you might not have realised but you struggle to take everyday decisions without involving your partner.
4. You seek validation
Your relationship has become your only source of happiness and you need constant reassurance from your partner to stay happy. You look for your partner’s validation to feel fulfilled and satisfied in life and your mood depends on how your partner is feeling.
5. You place your partner’s needs before your own
It is important to be an empathetic person and take care of your partner’s need in a relationship. However, it is also equally important to keep in mind that a relationship is a two-way street. If you are the only one who is always going an extra mile to make your lover feel happy and your partner does not reciprocate the same, it is surely a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
6. You feel insecure when your partner goes out without you
You feel insecure and possessive if your partner spends time with other people and enjoy their company. In fact, you tend to overthink over every little thing related to your relationship and feel anxious if you have even a little argument or difference of opinion with your partner.
7. You have started losing your identity
Your entire focus has shifted on your relationship and your world revolves around it. You have altered your daily schedule and lifestyle as per your partner’s likes and dislikes. Maybe, you used to go for walks or meet friends in your free time, but now you only play video games or binge on web series because this is what your partner enjoys. Remember, it is good to be curious and get involved in your partner’s hobbies and areas of interest but not to the extent that you start losing your own identity.
8. What to do if you are way too dependent
If one or all these above-mentioned points hold true in your case, it is surely a red flag for your individuality and your relationship as well. The first thing you can do is to take some time off and realize what makes you lean on your partner to this extent. Once you can acknowledge your behavioral traits and the possible reason behind it, look for ways to regain your lost independence. You can have a truly healthy relationship only when you are happy from within, and others (including your significant other) are just an extension of that happy state.