‘My wife bullied me into choosing a name I didn’t want for our baby’

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A man has admitted he feels like his wife ‘bullied’ him into choosing a name that he didn’t want for their first child – but she doesn’t agree.

When it comes to selecting a name for your child, it can prove pretty difficult.

Both you and your partner will have favourites and agreeing on the same one might take some time.

However, it all works out eventually, or at least it does most of the time.

One couple just weren’t able to choose a name for their little girl that they both liked, before she was born.

So the mum went ahead and gave her a name, now her husband is mad that it wasn’t the one he wanted and says he felt “bullied” into accepting the decision.

The awkward situation was revealed in a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.

In the post, the wife explained how her husband had wanted to name their daughter after his late mother – however his mum’s name was very old fashioned.

His wife had said she was happy to use her mother-in-law’s name as a middle name, but would not agree to use it as a first name.

They argued about this frequently and never ended up settling the grievance.

She explained: “My husband and I were expecting our first child, a girl. A few years ago, he lost his mom.

“Now, I loved his mom but she had a very ‘grandma’ sounding name. Think Mildred or Ethel. My husband suggested we name our daughter that. I said while I got the sentimental value, I didn’t like it for our daughter’s name.

“I suggested it as a middle name as a compromise and he said no, no, it should be her first name. I said no, names should have a two yes, one no rule.”

She continued: “Conversations about names became a fight for months. He’d veto any name I picked: classic, modern, a nickname of his mom’s name but still not the full one. It wasn’t what he wanted.

“I give birth and he’s there. All is calm and we’re thrilled. He says something about naming her after his mom again and I just don’t answer.

“Instead, later when asked, I said it was Lily (his mom’s name as a middle). He needed to sign off on it and got p***ed when he saw what I did.

“I told him that I wouldn’t sign off on his mom’s name being the baby’s first name and that I gave him ample time to help me pick something else. He reluctantly signed it and does call her Lily.

“However, he does still (six months later), say I bullied him into naming our daughter something he didn’t want.”

She then asked people on Reddit if they thought she was in the wrong for going ahead with a different name choice.

More than 1,000 people shared their thoughts, with many taking her side.