A woman has told social media users how her husband’s sister has not forgiven her for two years because she refused to allow her to use the couple’s wedding ceremony to also baptise her daughter.
The woman wrote on Reddit that her sister-in-law was considered the family’s “Golden Child” and at the last minute, she came up with a double ceremony, going as far as to contact their priest, who agreed to combine the events.
The then bride-to-be immediately said no because it would lengthen the time everything took, eating into her already-short reception and the baby would end up being in every picture for the wedding when it was meant to be the bride’s big day. Her now husband wasn’t bothered either way but supported his partner.
The woman offered her relative a compromise where the couple would delay their honeymoon and the new parents could have their baptism the following Sunday from the wedding but her sister-in-law was still not happy. She said: “So that’s what we ended up doing but she still brought baby girl, in full white satin lace, to the wedding and was front and centre in all the photos. And they brought their four to six friends to our reception without asking first. We never made a fuss about it.
“My issue is this, I STILL get crap from this sister-in-law and it’s been a couple of years since the wedding. Snippy remarks made when it’s only the two of us around, passive-aggressive comments in front of others, Bridezilla labels tossed my way, a cold shoulder when I try to talk to her on holidays, etc. Like seriously, it was years ago and she basically got what she wanted so why am I being treated like I was an AH? AITA??”
Her fellow users all agreed that she was right to not allow her relative’s request, with one saying: “NTA – I grew up Catholic and I have never heard of someone requesting this. I mean why not throw a confirmation in there too and then everyone can go to penance on the way out? This was a wedding, not a one-stop shopping church visit.”
Another said: “The second you didn’t kick her and her extra guests out at the wedding you ensured you would be dealing with this kind of behaviour for years,” while a third said: “Next time she makes some off-handed comment say something like, ‘You’re right, I am sorry that even after two years you seem to lack the mental horsepower to realise that my wedding, which was an event I planned and paid for, was neither about you or your daughter. Furthermore, I’m sorry that even after all this time you are so petty and childish that you feel the need to bring it up. I am also sorry that I didn’t bill you for your grossly rude behaviour of inviting guests to my wedding without my approval.”