False beliefs and accusations can change people’s lives.
The ones who accuse don’t even stop to think for a second whether what they believe is true or not.
But the accused faces a lifetime of guilt and shame even though none of it was their mistake.
It pains me to think every time how my sister-in-law’s accusations drifted my husband and me apart from each other.
So naturally, she is an integral part of my life every step of the way. We graduated together and have been working in the same city ever since.
During my wedding, she was my family’s best hand and she worked tirelessly to make sure the whole wedding was a success, not to mention the amazing photos we got clicked.
People even jokingly said, “these two are stuck at the hip!” The best part of it all was that my husband appreciated the presence of someone so dear to me. Everyone liked my best friend!
But things started to go topsy turvy when my best friend started to visit me at my in-laws’ home.
She used to come several times during the week and we would chat endlessly and share woes of married life.
We laughed, cried and even spurted comedic talks about marital life and in-laws. She managed to make me feel better every time I felt uneasy with my new family.
But without my knowledge, my sister-in-law had started imagining something fishy in between us.
Every time, my best friend came she gave me a very weird look as if she was bothered by my best friend’s presence.
I was never very close to my sister-in-law but we were in a good space, to begin with. I could never fathom her being bothered by my sweet best friend.
Soon enough, the night before my birthday, my best friend came over for a sleepover and it had been ages since we had done one.
So that night, my husband slept in another room. Shockingly, my sister-in-law had the audacity to ask if my best friend was considering going home for the night.
I instantly refused and then we both had a blast that night.
During another instance, I was crying out my heart to my best friend on the phone because of a fight my husband.
My sister-in-law came into the room with a tray of food. She looked shocked and asked me if I shared every single detail of my marital life with her.
And so, I said yes since we both had never kept any secrets.
My sister-in-law calmly sat down and asked me not to do this since this will ruin my marriage someday. I didn’t pay any heed to her that day mainly because I was very upset.
Things carried on the way it was going. I could gather that my sister-in-law was still bothered by her presence.
One day, she actually asked me if I was interested in women. At first, I didn’t understand what she meant but then it dawned on me.
She thought I am bisexual! I was appalled and angry at the same. How can she make this assumption about me? I snapped at her, “I am only interested in my husband. Don’t think otherwise.” She retorted, “It doesn’t look like that to me.”
The escalated fights between me and my husband was another proof of why my sister-in-law started to believe this nonsense.
My husband had stopped being friendly with me. He hardly talked to me when he came back from work.
He made excuses to not sit together and spend time. Soon enough, I could understand why my husband was acting like that.
Maybe, my sister-in-law spewed thoughts about me being romantically involved with my best friend into my husband’s mind.
And now, he was trying to stay away from me because he started to somewhere believe I was bisexual and I deceived him.
I have tried to talk to my husband about this but every time I do, he tries to get away. I haven’t even spoken to my best friend in a while for that matter and I feel devastated and trapped.
I just don’t know what to do with my toxic sister-in-law!