A honeymoon is traditionally supposed to be a special time for newlyweds, giving them space to be away from the various cares and responsibilities of their everyday lives.
Whether they plan on sunning themselves on a golden beach or wandering the streets of a historic city, most loved up brides would naturally expect to have plenty of time alone to gaze into their new husband’s eyes, thinking about the shared future that lies ahead of them.
It’s fair to say the vast majority of them wouldn’t expect to be joined by their mother-in-law as they walk hand in hand under the stars with their beloved, or slip into the hot tub with a glass of fizz.
Unfortunately, one bride-to-be had been left dismayed after her fiancé asked his mum whether she wanted to join in on their honeymoon during a drive back from the shops.
Taking to Reddit, the 22-year-old woman explained that she is due to get married in four months’ time and that she and her 33-year-old future husband have planned everything together as a team, including their honeymoon.
She wrote: “At first, a few months ago, he said he want to change our honeymoon to a family vacation so his parents and my mom can get along know each other more I agreed so we researched where to go and for how long”.
Just a few weeks later, her fiancé changed his mind on this front, stating that he didn’t want to bring his family along given that his relationship with them is “kind of rough”. Once again, she agreed, and they began drawing up a honeymoon plan for two.
However, this wasn’t to be the last time he’d backtrack on this matter.
The poster – who goes by the username u/Legal_Armadillo2233 – continued: “Everything was going fine until a few days ago when I was shopping with my soon-to-be mother-in-law. On the ride home my boyfriend asked her if she want to join us on our honeymoon. I was shocked and mad but I stay silent”.
“After we dropped her off, I asked him how if my mom doesn’t want to go with us (my mom really said she doesn’t want), he said it’s ok and we can just go with his family. It really bothered me but because we had plans to meet his friend afterwards, I just kept it to myself to not ruin the mood”.
After heading home, the ticked-off woman texted her other half to express her frustrations about the sudden and unexpected change of plan.
She continued: “Then he became mad as well because he thinks I’ve made a big deal out of something that isn’t so important. In the end, we both got mad and are still giving each other the silent treatment”.
As she explained in the post, she isn’t cross about the plan being changed, she’s cross because he didn’t talk it over with her first. Although she believes she has the right to be angry about how things unfolded, he’s also made her feel “guilty for making a fuss about something small”.
She later clarified in the comments section that this isn’t the first time that her partner has changed plans without consulting her first, and she’s alluded to similar situations with the rings and the prewedding photoshoot.
Her fellow Reddit users have been quick to reassure her that she shouldn’t feel guilty at all, with one person commenting: “I would be madder about him constantly changing the plan, and not consulting you”.
“It’s just so annoying, and if I’m being honest, a bit of a red flag. He’s forcing you into situations that you don’t want to be in, taking advantage of the fact that you can’t make a scene in public”.
Another wrote: “This isn’t a minor flaw. A minor flaw is ‘he goes to the toilet and leaves the door open’, not ‘he makes lots of decisions by himself or changes decisions we made together without asking me’. That is a big flaw, and would be a serious problem for most people”.
“Someone who makes all the decisions without involving you is not a nice man, and is thinking about themselves and not about you and your needs and wishes”.