Dear Coleen,
I’m a woman in my forties and got divorced a few years ago. I don’t have kids and I’m not in a serious relationship at the moment.
I work with a guy I find very sexy and it’s clear he’s interested in me, too, but he’s only 28.
I think about him a lot and what it would be like to sleep with him, but I don’t want either of us to get hurt. If I could have fun without any risks, I wouldn’t think twice.
But there’s part of me that worries it’s a waste of time and I should only be considering older men, so there’s a chance of a proper relationship.
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Even if you started dating an older guy, there are no guarantees the relationship will last. No one has a crystal ball at the start of any relationship.
I think you need to work out what you want – if right now it’s fun and no strings, then fill your boots. Why not?
Just bear in mind that if you fall out, it might make things tricky at work.
Personally, getting involved with a younger guy isn’t for me – I’ve no desire to go to bars or clubs or hike up mountains (and whatever else young guys do these days).
Yes, it’s a huge ego boost if someone younger finds you attractive and pays you attention, but that’s enough for me.
If you do get involved with this guy, just have realistic expectations and be honest at the start about what each of you wants from a relationship.