A woman has revealed how wearing white on her sister’s wedding day has caused a family feud between the two. After sharing her sartorial sorrow, she recounted how she’d chosen to wear a white shirt and black trousers, as ‘most of the men at the wedding were wearing the same’.
She said: “The dress code for the wedding was formal and women can’t wear white, but I thought it would be okay because I wasn’t wearing a dress,” she said of her decision.
However it seemed her sister took offense at the situation, having a bridal breakdown over her sister’s choice of attire: “She said that I stole the attention away from her, but I honestly didn’t because I didn’t stand out at all. I was wearing a plain shirt and black pants and I blended in with other people. I didn’t mean to upset her though, I honestly thought it would be ok.”
After taking to Reddit to see what readers thought of her wearing white on the night, she was reassured to know most were on her side: “Nobody is going to mistake a woman in a white shirt and black pants for the bride,” said one. “I think the whole ‘you wore white-how dare you’ thing is a red herring. Your sister is upset because the dress code was ‘formal’ and you were dressed like all the men. Your sister obviously expected to see you in a dress, or at least a fancy formal pantsuit, and you didn’t comply.”
One reader left a cheeky comment, saying: “Sounds like you’re closer to being mistaken for a waiter than a bride,” while another commented: “Formal is formal regardless of if it’s made for men or women. As long as it fits and it fits the bill (suit, dress, etc).”
“Since you said there were other men in button-ups and slacks, without jacketed suits, I think that’s totally fine,” said one reader, before adding: “I hate the passive-aggressive cold-shoulder. So tired of people trying to push gendered clothing norms.”
“She knows how you dress,” said one. “A white dress shirt, same as all the men are wearing, is not taking attention away from a bride, and there’s no way your style of dress was surprising to her. Weddings are getting really stupid. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this dumb bullsh*t.”