Cheating is of course a sensitive topic for many people, and it’s understandable that some people will struggle to forgive such behaviour, even when it comes to their very best friends.
One single mum has opened up about her best friend refusing to speak to her after she admitted to having slept with a man who she knew full well was already in a relationship.
The mum-of-three told how she has been single for more than six years and hasn’t been all that interested in dating.
However, her life became more complicated after she met a man in a bar a couple of months back.
As she claimed on the Netmums forum, the woman – who goes by the username Zoe L – accepted a drink from the man in question, and they proceeded to talk for the rest of the night.
He was upfront straight away about having a girlfriend, and so Zoe “wasn’t interested in pursuing anything with him”. However, as she explained it, “the banter was good”.
At the end of the night, Zoe added her new friend on SnapChat so she could let him know once she got home safe, and, as she got into a taxi, the man leaned in to give her a kiss.
Admitting that she’d “had quite a bit to drink” by this point, Zoe kissed him back. The next day, she “felt awful” knowing that he already had a girlfriend, however, despite her regrets, their story didn’t end here.
According to Zoe, the pair “have exchanged snaps and texts almost every day”. Although these have been “mostly quite innocent”, some messages have “turned quite flirty when one or both of us has been drinking”.
Things escalated after a night out with a male friend last weekend. Zoe sent some Snaps to the man she’s been messaging, and he told her to let him know if she needed a lift. She said she’d be fine, but promised she’d let him know once she was home safe and sound.
Unfortunately, Zoe ended up leaving her phone in the taxi and was only able to get it back the following day. Although she messaged him “straight away”, she was surprised to find that the man was “really off” with her, and asked him what was up.
Zoe revealed: “He said he was jealous and thought I had spent the night with the friend I had been out with, I was hungover and in bad form so told him to get lost he was the one in a relationship and it really wasn’t anything to do with him even if I had spent the night with my friend”.
The next morning, the man texted Zoe “apologising for being a d**k”, admitting that, ever since they’d met he hadn’t been able to stop thinking about her. Zoe told him that she “was happy on my own but felt the same and wasn’t interested whilst he was still in a relationship”.
They decided to meet up in person and headed to the beach for a coffee, spending around two hours talking together. Then, Zoe explained, “one thing led to another and we ended up having sex”, which she claims “was the best I’ve ever had”.
Zoe recalled: “When he dropped me home the guilt hit and I rang my best friend for advice. She knew I had been talking with him for two months but has always warned me to keep my distance, once a cheater always a cheater. When I told her I slept with him she completely lost it and hasn’t spoken to me since”.
Feeling “so confused” about the situation, Zoe confessed to her fellow Netmums users that, although she doesn’t want a relationship with him, she “can’t get him out of my head”, and now fears she may “have lost my best friend over a moment of selfishness”.
One commenter advised her “to give your friend time” and to “apologise and block on him on everything if you really don’t want to end up in a mess”, while another urged her to “speak to your friend, show her you know you’ve done wrong, etc and forget this man”.
A third person wrote: “You say this has boosted your self-confidence. When his girlfriend finds out, she’s going to lose hers. Are you willing to lose a friend over him? He’s cheated on the woman he loves with you so he’s not trustworthy How long until he cheats on you?”