Do you think it would be disturbing to pay your partner for oral sex?
This is the question one man has publicly posed, after writing into a relationship advice column.
The unnamed Australian man explained to news.com.au’s Relationship Rehab that his wife isn’t as bothered about oral sex as he is.
He claims his wife rarely wants to receive it and so in the past he has gone without it as well – once for “well over a year”.
But he now knows that he needs to have it more frequently, so has decided to pay his partner for doing it.
He wrote: “As our money is separate due to her being irresponsible, I put forward an idea: Every time she gives me oral sex on its own, from start to climax I pay her $30 (around £15), which may happen once a fortnight.
“I book it in and shower once kids are in bed and transfer her the money.”
He goes on to explain that there are a “few other sexual favours” he will pay her for – such as anal sex, which he parts with $200 for.
And he believes his wife is comfortable with their deal, as she often seeks to make more money.
“At times when she wants to earn more money, she may initiate deals to book in,” he says.
“When it comes to normal sex I don’t pay anything which is average once or twice a week, but with kids and the pressures of everyday life, it’s pretty quick missionary to fit it in with our night once kids are settled in bed or occupied.”
He adds: “My question is, are these payment deals something that you consider disturbing, or if it works for both of us, is it OK?
“We’ve been together eight years. I have a high sex drive where I feel I need to ejaculate a minimum of twice a day and that’s why I put these offers forward where we both get something from it, or maybe others looking in would think my demand is unreasonable.”
Relationship expert Isiah McKimmie confesses to having “concerns” about the couple’s current situation.
She replies: “At the very least, this sounds like an unhealthy dynamic.
“At its worst, I’m concerned that there is actually abuse occurring in your relationship.
“Just because your wife ‘has agreed’ to this, doesn’t mean it’s not abusive.”
She adds: “Your current approach does nothing to build real intimacy or to help cultivate your wife’s sexual desire.”