A sex worker, who has a disabled client, says she’s “privileged” that he trusts her enough to work with him.
Olive Pearl, 30, sees Gavin Thorneycroft, 32, who lives with cerebral palsy, once a week. Now, they share videos talking about their steamy sessions on TikTok to break the stigma around sex with a disability.
The Melbourne-based pair, who are now also good friends, show how they connect intimately. Most of the time, wheelchair user Gavin is positioned in a sex swing.
They want their content to encourage others to be more open minded and understanding about sex for disabled people.
So far, they’ve caught the attention of a lot of people, racking up 1 million views on TikTok.
Olive, who moved to Australia from Hamburg in Germany, first started working in the sex industry when she was 18 years old. Since then, she’s worked on and off as a sex worker.
She said: “Gavin is just a regular guy – with the same sexual desires as other people.
“When I spend time with him, I don’t see him as any different to any other client.
“We just have to get a little inventive with our positions to make sure it’s comfortable for him – the sex swing is great for that – but that’s it.”
She added: “I feel privileged that Gavin trusts me enough to sexually satisfy his needs. We are now good friends, and we always have fun together.”
Gavin, who isn’t able to work because of his disability, said: “Having sex makes me feel normal, but it was hard to find a sex worker who gets it.
“Olive is so respectful and we have a great time together.
“Just because I’m disabled it doesn’t mean I don’t have the same wants and needs as able-bodied people.
“People with disabilities shouldn’t feel ashamed of having sex and being sexual – it’s totally normal.”
He first reached out to Olive – who has also worked in education in the past – in February 2021. Since then, he’s been a weekly client.
After starting their TikTok videos, the pair have formed a strong bond and are good friends.
Olive said: “We want to break the stigma around sex and disability. Instead of believing something you’ve heard, do your own research.
“Talk to people and form your own opinion. Don’t be afraid to admit to mistakes and changing your views. We have to evolve. It’s the only way we’re going to be able to break the stigma.”
Gavin said: “Olive is the best sex worker I’ve been with, and we have good chemistry. Ninety per cent of the time past experiences I’ve had sexually have been bad – they haven’t been able to understand how cerebral palsy can impact sex.
“People with disabilities still want and need sex and relationships.”
Olive said: “It’s important that people appreciate that just because someone has a disability it doesn’t mean their need for a sexual relationship isn’t there – they just may need to do things slightly differently.
“All it takes is some time to listen and a little creativity in the bedroom to make magic happen and it’s enjoyable for everyone.
“It gives me great satisfaction – making sure Gavin is fulfilled.”