Have you gone through days of distress, where you were unable to express your feelings? Or a moment when you had to silence all your inner voices and thoughts? What might have stopped you, when you wanted to open up these feelings to someone? Is it because you felt insecure? Or are you intimidated? Or worried about the other person’s response?
Reasons can be anything. Because sharing emotions is not an easy feat. You do have to be cautious as something once said cannot be unsaid. Here are some tips that will help you to share your thoughts and express your feelings to someone effectively.
Hold on, until you are calm
When people are emotional, they often become impulsive and tend to do things that they later regret. So, make sure that you give enough time for yourself when you have an issue. Try to take a ‘pause’ before you unfold your emotions to someone. This ‘pause’ matters, as it will allow you to think before speaking. This will also help you to make yourself calm thus you will be able to communicate your feelings effectively.
Respect the listener
When you decide to talk to another person, start with an attitude of respect for him or her. Ask them for some time as per their convenience. This will create an atmosphere for healthy discussion. Also, tell the other person what you like about them as a person, what made you choose them over others to open up your emotions.
Embrace peace
Open up about your gut feelings to the other person and tell them that your intention is to get peace. Seek guidance and help from them to overcome this phase of distress. At the same time, you should also tell the other person that peace at any cost is not what you want.
Be open about your fears
Not every time, you can find solutions for your problems alone. Tell the other person your fears and feelings. Be open about it. It gives you immense satisfaction. It will help you to take emotions lighter. You should be fair when you talk about your emotions.
Be ready for the feedback
You must listen to the other person’s point of view about your emotions. They might have also confronted this kind of situation. A feedback from the other person could help you to grow as a person. This will also help you to be comfortable around them. So, next time you won’t feel much difficulty in opening up your emotion to this person.
“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde.