How couples are dealing with the lockdown
The Coronavirus lockdown has made us face some harsh realities of life. Besides making us accept some ugly truths of life, this period of isolation has also made us change our outlook towards life and relationship. While some couples might be struggling to make their relationship work, others might be cherishing the time they get to spend with each other. In case, you are wondering how the lockdown has affected other couples or how they are dealing with this period of self-isolation, these replies on the popular question-and-answer-site Quora will ensure that you are not alone.
02/8​It has done wonder for us!
According to one user, the lockdown is proving to be an extended honeymoon. Prashant Sonawane wrote that he got married on March 15, 2020 and their honeymoon to Goa, which was scheduled for March 21, got cancelled due to the lockdown. However, the lockdown failed of dim the spirit of the newly-weds. “Now it’s been exactly one month since our marriage and we are stuck at home, just stepped out foot outside once, when I had to take her to a Medical store for her stuff. We do breakfast, lunch, evening tea, dinner together. Get 3-4 hours sleep in the afternoon. In this lockdown I’ve just watched two movies. We are talking, cuddling, eating together and are doing all things that happy couples do. Friends, relatives, colleagues are jealous that we are getting such an extended honeymoon. So how has the lockdown affected us as a couple? Well, it has done wonders for us. Stay home, stay safe,” shared Prashant
03/8​Our relationship is getting affected in a very negative way
One of the users wrote, “My relationship is getting affected in a very negative way due to this lockdown. I am in a long-distance relationship. My relationship started very recently like two months back. We were connected all the time and that was our honeymoon period, you can say. But suddenly the Coronavirus pandemic started and due to his work(he is a doctor) and some other personal reasons, he is very busy. We don’t even talk for more than five minutes now. I have a lot of free time at hand so I miss him. All these timing issues causing so many fights between us. I am worried whether he will be with me in the future or not. Not sure whether he loves me or not. Can’t say anything to him as he is very exhausted from work. I am just waiting for his decision and once this lockdown is over, I will get to know whether he wants to be with me or not.
04/8​This lockdown has helped us to know each other better
Rashmi Karadalli wrote that the lockdown has helped her and her husband to know each other better. The couple got married in November 2019 and due to their job timings (both worked in different shifts), they hardly got time to spend each other. But the lockdown totally changed the equation. “Yes, this lockdown has helped us to know each other more. He is not much interested in watching web series but now I make him sit with me and watch. We watch web series, movies late at night. We play online games like ludo. He doesn’t use Instagram or Quora but whatever I watch or read anything interesting, I bring it to his notice too. We also learn recipes together and try cooking new dishes,” shared Rashmi.
05/8My wife suspects I will cheat on her if she is not around!
One of the users, Nav Deep, is facing a very unique situation. The lockdown happened when his wife had gone to visit her parents and was there to celebrate the festival Ugadi. She was supposed to return to her husband’s place after the festival but the lockdown made it impossible. “It’s like a long-distance relationship after getting married. I miss my wife and kids so much. My wife is very conservative and possessive about me. She suspects I will cheat on her if she is not around,” wrote Nav Deep.
06/8The lockdown has been great for our marriage!
For a lot of married couples, the lockdown proved to be a blessing in disguise. “The lockdown has been great for our marriage! We get to spend more time together each day, relax without the stress of colleagues and social obligations, and take breaks from work to talk to each other. We have more time and energy to have fun and laugh together, and just enjoy each other’s company. We miss going out a bit, but we’re generally homebodies and enjoy the time to ourselves. We’ve picked up new hobbies–like making sourdough, reading more books, and watching new movies together. Being at home means mealtimes are a bit more flexible, so I can experiment with new meals, which keeps life interesting,” wrote Skye Looke
07/8This is the worst phase of my life
The lockdown has proved to be the worst phase in someone’s life. Her relationship with her boyfriend had gone sour and now the guy is blackmailing her. “This is the worst phase of my life. I’m in a relationship with a guy from my company for past one year. Initially, we were friends and later decided to move forward. He is 31 years old, so his parents are forcing him to get married. We informed our respective families and his parents are ready. But, my sister had a failed love marriage, so my parents are not agreeing. When I conveyed this, he started blackmailing me. He called my mother and shared our private moments and challenged me saying, “How you’ll be sent to work will see?’ Today, he had texted many of my friends and told about our story. And he is blackmailing that he will call my father and disclose everything. Don’t know how to move forward. Everyone is now blaming me. I don’t know how to handle this situation,” wrote a user.
08/8​The lockdown is proving to be very frustrating
For Quora user Hussain Ahmed Sohag, the lockdown is proving to be very frustrating. He got married to his girlfriend of 10 years on January 3, 2020. “I was extremely busy with my Ph.D. application in the USA for fall 2020. When I completed my application, I came to my home city to spend time with my wife. But due to the sudden lockdown, we can’t even meet anymore. We are living at our respective parent’s house This is frustrating for us because due to the lockdown we can’t visit each other’s home. We cant hang out and spend quality time we used to spend. My soulmate is very sensitive she can’t tolerate any more to stay without meeting. She is bored and exhausted. She is a doctor and is always busy with her Chamber and hospital duty. But she is stuck at home for the last 20 days because of the lockdown,” wrote Hussain Ahmed Sohag.
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