Getting over a heartbreak isn’t easy. The memories of an ex-lover linger for years and it might take decades to not feel the pain whenever a past affair is mentioned.
There are innumerable novels and stories of jilted lovers or unrequited love where a person resorts to many methods, some very unhealthy ones (like our very own Devdas) to get over a past relationship. Some are only released from the clutches of those painful memories after their death, and others perhaps carry it beyond their grave.
In fact, a lot of studies have been conducted to examine human behaviour related to heartbreak and break-up. One such study was conducted by the researchers at the University of Colorado where they carried out a series of experiments on 40 participants who had ugly or unwanted break-ups in the recent past or in six months.
After an elaborate study, the researchers found that when people do something they believe will make them feel better, it actually helps them feel better. It’s like the placebo effect of medicines.
They applied the same theory on those people who were trying hard to get over a break-up or nurse their broken heart. Surprisingly, when people tried doing things they believed helped them feel better, they were actually able to move into a happier place emotionally.
In case, you are struggling with a broken relationship, you can actually use this tip to get over your feelings. Besides what the scientists had suggested, here are also a few other ways to relieve the pain of heartbreak.
Talk about it
A lot of people make this mistake of not addressing their emotions and bottling up their feelings of hurt and pain. According to experts, unexpressed resentment or emotions stop people from getting over an episode that caused them to suppress their remorse, hatred or sadness after a break-up. Talk to a friend or a confidante; be vocal about what’s going on in your head.
A closure is important
In many cases, where the break-up is sudden and unexpected, a person may not get a chance for a closure. Under such circumstances, he or she might be hoping for reconciliation or some kind of miracle that will heal the relationship and they would be back together. Therefore, it’s very important to have a sense of closure.
Stop stalking on social media
Since the advent of social media, many of us are guilty of spying into other’s lives using Facebook, Instagram or some other platforms. After a break-up, it becomes very difficult to resist the temptation to know what’s happening in the life of an ex-partner. A word of caution: the sooner you stop following an ex on social media, the easier it would be to get over a break-up.
Seek help if needed
Unaddressed or suppressed resentment can often lead to insecurity, loneliness and anger. This can sometimes make a person feel depressed, which has the potential to grow into something more serious. It is therefore very important to seek professional help and take therapy if required.