1. When the honeymoon phase gets over…
The initial months of a relationship are always interesting. You get to know something or the other about your partner almost every day and there are countless things to explore together. From the first date, first Valentine’s Day to the first time you cuddle, there is newness in everything you do. But once this honeymoon phase gets over, couples tend to feel a little bored in their relationship. Does this situation sound familiar to you? Do you also feel there is no excitement left in your relationship? If your answer is yes, here’s how and why you should have an honest conversation with your partner on this subject.
2. Relax! It’s normal
First of all, take a deep breath. It is a normal stage in a relationship that every couple deals with and you need to approach it pragmatically. It is a sign that you both have got comfortable in each other’s company, and make sure you do not start taking each other for granted.
3. Look for the right time
You can’t hold this serious conversation when your partner is not in a good mood or both are dealing with another issue in the relationship. Look for the right opportunity when you have ample time in hand and make sure you both figure out some solution by the end of it. The conversation might get a little awkward in the beginning but remember things would only worsen if you don’t address this elephant in the room.
4. Explain!
To get your partner’s attention and take the conversation forward, you need to first explain how you feel bored in the relationship. For instance, you can point out how you both are no longer curious to know more about each other or are running out to topics to talk about. Maybe, you can point how both of you get irritated easily or have started paying less attention to each other’s needs.
5. Don’t play the blame game
Don’t do the mistake of playing the blame game while having this conversation; it would only distract you from the main subject. Be upfront and honest about your mistakes and offer how you plan to improve the situation. This would encourage your partner to open up and discuss what he or she has been feeling in the recent past.
6. What to do?
Well, it is clear that you need to shake things up and change your daily routine a bit. Talk to your partner and come up with some rules that would help to strengthen your relationship. Maybe, you can make it a rule to keep your phones aside for an hour every night and spend quality time with each other. If not this, you can fix one day of the week when you can go for a date night. Apart from this, you have to make efforts from your end to make your partner feel special. Like, sending a surprise gift won’t hurt your bae, right?
7. Don’t forget the bedroom
Don’t forget to discuss how to spice up things in your bedroom as well. Whether it is role-playing, trying out a new position, sharing your fantasies or playing sex games, look for ways to bring back that lost spark in your sex life and you would be glad to see how your relationship would become exciting again.
8. It’s a two-way street
Remember, a relationship is a two-way street and you both have to work to get out of this phase. You can only escape this boredom when each partner makes efforts and steps out of his or her comfort zone. In fact, we bet you both would come out stronger as a couple and share a better understanding level after you revive your relationship.