Transformational coach and mBIT trainer, Scofray Nana Yaw Yeboah, has clarified that a woman’s orgasm during sex is not the responsibility of the man and is fundamental in relationships.
Speaking on Joy Prime’s Prime Morning show, regarding the science of happiness, the transformational coach explained that orgasm writes on the heart and sex is an activity. Hence, there has to be a connection between the two to be able to reach the orgasm stage.
Therefore, sex is not the ultimate determinant of one’s happiness but lovemaking, meaning there needs to be an attachment between the heart and the
sexual act.
“Orgasm writes on the chemical oxytocin and serotonin, which is the heart. But sex can just be heady; an activity. So the question is, what you’re doing, is your heart involved? Are you in connection because if there’s no connection, it becomes mechanical? One of the ways to grimmer happiness and wellbeing is love making, not sex. So, it’s not the act; it’s the art and act that make lovemaking. But because we want the happiness up here, we’re more consumed with the act. So, no man is responsible for the woman’s orgasm because he is not in your body,” he clarified.
Similarly, Mr. Yeboah pointed out that the orgasm of a man is equally not the duty of the woman, clearing that a man’s ejaculation is not his orgasm stage.
But he said, “It is the extra journey behind the connection behind the two of you in the act. That solid connection that can get me to surrender absolutely without feeling threatened that my vulnerability can be used against me.”
On that account, the individual’s surroundings and daily activities such as food, water, people, and sexual partners are vital determinants of the individual’s happiness.
The life coach further highlighted that one can attain orgasm without necessarily engaging in any sexual intimacy because it is the obligation of the vagus nerve, especially when it coordinates all senses.
Mr. Yeboah urged individuals to make a conscious effort to have what he calls ‘Me Time’ with themselves before commencing their daily routines in order to grow consistently in happiness. He noted that stress is worryingly on the rise, according to statistics.
“It is not fidgeting with your phone, watching a movie. It’s coordinating every moment for you. Just do that for 3 minutes before you start your day,” he told Asieduwaa Akumia and KMJ.
Source: Joan Nyame
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