A bride is torn whether to go ahead with her wedding or not after her fiancé revealed a shocking bombshell weeks before they are due to say ‘I do’.
After years of being committed to a partner, you think you know everything about them and can trust them wholeheartedly. That’s what one bride thought, until she and her husband-to-be began discussing a cheating scandal in their friendship group, which subsequently exposed the truth about her partner.
A bride, who wishes to remain unnamed, had always felt secure in her relationship and never had an issue with her “soulmate” partner- Matthew – being bisexual. While he has previously asked if they can bring in a man to their sexual relationship, the idea was quickly dropped when his partner insisted on a monogamous relationship only. No issue has come up since, and the pair are due to get married in a few weeks after eight years together.
But, Matthew has recently revealed that he cheated on his fiancée with a man while on a stag do over a year ago. His partner has asked from some space and their planned and paid for wedding hangs in jeopardy, as well as the future of their relationship.
The dilemma was shared on Australian podcast Everybody Has A Secret and left host Eilish Gilligan and her co-hosts stunned, after the bride wrote into the show and asked for help.
The bride explained: “Matt told me he was bisexual – which wasn’t and never will be an issue for me. The only complicating factor when it comes to my partner’s sexuality is that he has, for most of his life, kept it a secret. He’s from a very religious family and lots of our friends and loved ones are part of the religious community – at times made my partner feels isolated and ashamed.
“Over the course of eight years together, Matt has asked for threesomes with men, to which I have declined. I have been clear. I’m not interested in sexual exploration with anyone but the two of us.
“Just a few weeks ago, everything took a turn. We were discussing a cheating scandal in our friendship group and one of our mates cheated on their partner. I was explaining to Matt that I was super surprised that our friend hadn’t left the relationship and stuck with the cheating party.”
The couple then propositioned what would happen if one of them were to cheat on the other and it opened a can of worms. While the bride told her future husband she is not sure she could be with someone that she does not trust, he had a confession to make.
She added: “Matt went silent for a long time and then told me what he did over a year ago. It turns out that on a drunken party year, Matt got high and had sex with a man. This is a man he’d known for a little while and who happens to be married with children.
“I became hysterical. I feel completely heartbroken and betrayed. Matt told me the only reason he didn’t tell me is because he doesn’t want to ever risk losing me. He said it was a one off, there was zero communication afterwards, and the two of them essentially blocked it out and pretended it never happened.”
His partner explained that she “wants to protect him” from their religious loved ones, so has kept the revelation to herself. She told Matthew she wants space.
The bride continued: “I haven’t told anyone which means I have no shouldered the stress and anxiety all on my own. But part of me also feels frustration and resentment that it’s an easy way to protect him from taking accountability too.
“He is deeply trying to win me back – I really, really love him. I have always thought he was my soul mate but I am not sure I’ll ever be able to trust him again. Should I cancel my wedding?”
After a video clip of the dilemma was shared on TikTok by Everybody Has A Secret, hundreds rushed to shared their advice and thoughts. One individual said: “It sounds like with keeping his bisexuality mostly secret, he hasn’t gotten to explore/experience enough (for him) and is not ready to commit.”
Another wrote: “Soulmates don’t have to be romantic – maybe he’s meant to be her friend forever but not her husband. And that’s okay!” A third advised: “What a heartbreaking situation. She needs to leave. The trust has already been broken and he hid it for a full year.”
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