Parent’s dilemma: Nudity at home – When should it come to an end?

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When your children are young, you probably wouldn’t think twice about changing clothes while they’re in the room or getting into the shower with them to help them wash.

But at what age do you stop getting naked when your kids are around, and when is it time to start putting a swimming costume on just to help them shampoo their hair?

That’s the question one mum asked people online recently as she was looking for advice on the topic, and her query sparked fierce debate – with some saying you should stop when your children are around seven years old, and others saying there’s no age limit.

In a post on Mumsnet, the parent asked: “What age is it appropriate to stop being naked in front of your children (if any) and does gender matter? ie: dad and daughter or mum and son?”

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The answer to the question is largely down to personal preference, and this was evident in the responses as everyone seemed to have a different opinion.

However, many agreed that if you do want to put an age on it, then doing so when your children are in their pre-teen phase was the way to go.

One person said: “Same gender I think never. Opposite [gender] I think when they begin to feel uncomfortable … in our house about age 14-15 years old.”

While another added: “Both of mine probably saw me naked up to about 10 or 11 – after that, they would have been horrified, I think. But at least they saw what a normal woman’s body looks like and they’ve seen me in underwear well into their teens.”

There were some who thought that the behaviour should be stopped much earlier though, with one mum saying she stopped when her children were seven.

She wrote: “When they start to feel uncomfortable/embarrassed – which was 7ish for both of my children.”

And others said they weren’t “worrying about it”, and would stop getting naked around their children when either they or their kids began feeling “uncomfortable” with it – at whatever age that might happen.

Someone posted: “I don’t know. My oldest is seven and I’m still not worrying about it. She is starting to seek privacy though, closing the door to get changed etc, so I think soon.”

As someone else said: “When they feel uncomfortable, different for every child and family.”

Ultimately, the decision is up to you and your child, and while some families may not want to get naked in front of each other, others will continue to do so into adulthood.

And as one commenter pointed out, there may always be “some level of nudity” between family members as you may find yourself needing to help your child – or your parent – with some tasks if they ever suffer an injury.

They wrote: “I think there’s always going to be some level of nudity between close family because you end up having to look after each other. After I had my C-section my mother had to help me out of bed for a fortnight, she had to hold my breast and show me how to latch the baby on.

“When she thought she had a breast lump I had to examine it for her because she was scared. When I had a broken leg as a teenager my Dad had to lift me in and out of the bath, and when he had a hip replacement many years later I had to help him get in the shower and change his clothes.”