Disclaimer: Everything mentioned in the space below is not meant to offend anybody and is general observation
I’m sure most girls in their twenties and women in their thirties will agree to each and every word put out here. Seriously, how very annoying it is to be asked questions that we either aren’t comfortable talking or simply don’t want to talk about. Some of these questions are so personal that they don’t only invade your physical space but also your mental space.
Like it or not, we all have some “typical relatives” who are just waiting for a moment, a situation or an occasion to ask us questions that not just annoy us but make us feel insecure in known and unknown ways. As a woman myself, I really wanted to address this and I’m glad I’m finally being able to. As a matter of fact, I literally got asked about one of these irritating questions just a few minutes back and if you’re wondering how I responded to it, I did use my sass. Yes!
If you thought women are already dealing with a lot in terms of periods and house responsibilities, you don’t know how these questions asked by other women can get on our nerves. We honestly expect women to understand women better, but when it comes to these questions, nosy aunties are a disgrace. Again, not meaning to sound rude, but all of this is just a way to say, “We’ve had enough and you need to STOP!”
Here are how a few unnecessary interrogatory sessions sound like and how we women really wish to answer but don’t do, out of respect:
1. Haww beta, you look so skinny/fat, have you not been eating well/eating too much?
– Yes, aunty. My parents are depriving me of food or are feeding me too much lately. Should I come to your place for lunches and dinners uninvited, just like your question?
2. How much did you score in your 10th/12th?
– Your son/daughter is not going to like it if I ask the same question to him/her. So don’t ask me either.
3. When are you getting married? I think it’s time.
– Yea, I think it’s time for you to mind your own business too.
4. When are you planning for a baby? (Always a post-marriage question)
– Just when you stop poking your nose in my business.
5. Why are you wearing this? Doesn’t suit you, beta.
– You’re not my stylist and I didn’t ask for your opinion. Did I ever tell you that you are a fashion disaster in yourself? No, right?
6. How much money do you make?
– Enough to afford a life you couldn’t give to your child when he/she needed it.
7. You aren’t smoking and drinking no? Those are really bad habits.
– Yea, explain this to your own children first and then we shall talk.
8. Why are you posting such things on your social media?
– Because I have an opinion and freedom of speech. You don’t like it, don’t read it. Simple.
9. Do you have a boyfriend, beta?
– You’d not even be the last person to know if I have one.
10. You should do something about your skin/hair. Don’t you think?
– Have a look in the mirror and try to fix yours first.