1. Are you marrying the right person?
Marriage, a pivotal stage in a person’s life, can be an exciting and enjoyable experience when you tie the knot with the right person. Otherwise, it can be emotionally draining and physically exhilarating. Unlike the fairy tale idea of weddings we grow up fantasizing, marriages in real life are tricky and challenging. Once you’re past the honeymoon phase, only then you might face some uncomfortable situations that might force you to contemplate if you have married the right person or not. Although there is no easy analysis guaranteeing a compatible life partner, however, considering the following factors while choosing a partner can be a great help.
2. ​Your values align
​While sharing the same love for jazz or a passion for travelling might enhance your relationship, what matters in a marriage is having shared values. This means both should have similar socio-cultural or political beliefs, same value system, etc. The fact that you want the same thing from life is a sign that you believe in the same core values and are meant to be together. As we grow and evolve, our interests keep changing but the values that we hold don’t alter much if strongly held. Regardless of your interests, shared values have a good chance for a successful marriage. You don’t have to agree on everything but if your values are out of line, you may need to reconsider the prospect of marriage.
3. ​You have a healthy level of independence
While you enjoy spending time together, your prospective spouse should have no issue with you spending time with your friends or doing the things you love. In a healthy relationship, both understand and respect that their partner needs time apart doing what they want to do. If someone is constantly relying on you for all their needs and wants than understand there’s trouble down the line. Co-dependence on each other to a degree that you lose your autonomy is a poor sign. A self-assured partner is confident and can take care of their own emotional needs.
4. You have strong trust
Trust lays the foundation of any relationship. When you trust your significant other, you have the freedom to be yourself, to share your heart and soul with him or her because you know what you share will be valued and treasured. You can be honest about things without the need to hide them and that’s a good sign. Without trust, you will experience fear and insecurities, dampening the potential of the relationship. It is, therefore, imperative to know that the person you’re going to marry is trustworthy before you share your deepest feelings and experiences.
5. You feel comfortable and content
In some cases, people get into marriages where they feel stuck either because they have lost their sense of independence or because they think they have no escape from an emotionally confined situation. Know that when you meet the right spouse-to-be you’ll feel like you’ve known him or her forever. This means you don’t have to change or give up on your integrity. In your heart of hearts, you know the presence of this person makes you feel comfortable and content.
6. You have healthy conflicts
Healthy fights and arguments are an essential part of any relationship, including marriage. It is natural to be in a relationship and have disagreements. The only difference is that fights in a sustainable relationship aren’t about who’s right. If you and your partner discuss, understand and respect each other’s viewpoint, then it’s a healthy sign that communication is intact and you both are mature enough to be in a relationship. Arguments and disagreements will help accept the part of each other that you can’t control and grow as a couple. But repeated arguments over the same thing or resentment is surely a red flag.