“It’s not about having enough time, it’s about making enough time.” This often-referred quote by Australian author, motivational speaker and television personality Rachael Bermingham sheds light on one of the saddest realities of life—the lack of time. We all want to spend quality time with our loved ones, but only a few can manage to do so. As a result of which, we often cite the reason, “I don’t have time” whenever a that someone special makes a plan or wants to go on a vacation or just watch a movie together. But did you know, if citing lack of time as a reason to avoid requests of your partner becomes a habit, it can slowly deteriorate your relationship? Besides this, it also says a lot about your personality. Here’s what it means when you use this excuse of ‘not having time’ to your partner too often:
You don’t know how to manage your time
The first thing that will come to your partner’s mind when you often excuse yourself citing lack of time is that you do not know how to manage your time. Remember, we need to make time for everything. Would you tell your boss that you don’t have time for an important project, which means a lot? Similarly, the time you spend with your lover too is important. And you need to make time for that.
Your partner is not your priority If lack of time is the reason for which you often turn down your partner’s request, it means he or she is not your priority. It will not only make the person feel neglected but will make him question your choice of priorities. This speaks volume about the value, or the lack of it, he has in your life.
Not willing to make adjustments
Let’s look at this situation—your partner has made plans for a romantic dinner and had informed you quite in advance but you back out at the last moment because you ‘don’t have time’. It’s obvious that the other person would feel dejected. Although he or she might forgive you in a day or two, but at some point this question about adjustment would always rise—could not you adjust a little time from your busy schedule for your loved one? Now, a relationship needs adjustment and if you fail to do so, how do you expect it to grow stronger?
Doesn’t know the true value of time
People who often say they don’t have time, are the ones who fail to understand the true value of time. Have you ever wondered how successful people like Bill Gates or Barack Obama or Amitabh Bachchan juggle so many things yet have time for their loved ones? People who respect time, never give the excuse of lack of time.
You will never have time, if you don’t make time
Remember this, you will never have time, until and unless you make time for the people you love. This depends totally on how you manage your time, make adjustments and prioritise what you need to do. And this would not only help you to manage your professional life, but it will also enable you to strike the perfect work-life balance.
By – TNN