Divorced women shares their experiences of broken marriages
Being divorced is never a great thing. Although, some may feel independent of the toxic marriage they were in, there is always major part of the ‘Self’ that is broken and left irreparable in the process. A separation truly comes at a great expense and much is lost and forgotten over the years.
From an over-heated argument to an intolerable amount of toxic love, most of the divorce stories revolve around the same problems and issues. However, many are also guilty about their attitudes towards their spouses and regret their actions that lead to such a depressing end. Here are 7 divorced women who share the things they feel they could have done differently in their marriages.
02/9“He wanted us to take vacations but I was too busy with work and I pushed him away”
Working women are inspirational. Considering how difficult it is for a woman to reach her goals, I too had to work hard to become successful in my line of profession. But not all success stories have a happy ending. Even after getting married, I forgot about the other pleasures of life. Instead of balancing my personal and my professional line, I became blinded by my ambitions and hardly spent any time with my spouse (ex-spouse). While he understood how important my work was for me, he also knew how I needed to loosen up too. He wanted us to take vacations but I was too busy with work and I pushed him away. Guess in that process, we became too distant and he could not take it anymore.
03/9“I never took care of how I looked. He did everything to motivate me to take care of myself but I ignored the signs and then I found him cheating”
I had been married for over 10 years and initially it was beautiful and dreamy. Ours was a love marriage and like every other love marriage, it was exciting and adventurous. However with time, I stopped taking care of myself and as opposed to how I looked and how I maintained myself during my youth, I gave up on it all. I never took care of how I looked. He did everything to motivate me to take care of myself but I ignored the signs and then I found him cheating, which although came as a shock, but I felt guilty for it too.
04/9“While the initial years were full of thrill and excitement, over time, I started taking my husband for granted”
Never make the mistake of overlooking the needs and necessities of your loved ones. I committed that mistake and now I’m all alone in life. Like every other relationship our marriage was a happy one too. While the initial years were full of thrill and excitement, over time, I started taking my husband for granted. Although he stuck around for a while, but the more he stayed, my ego just grew with it. Finally he realized his worth and left me and I couldn’t blame him.
05/9“I always fought with him if he spent time with his friends or family. I wanted him to be with me all the time. I didn’t realize I was choking him with my over dependence”
From a young age, I was pampered by my parents and my loved ones. I always got what I wished for and was never deprived of anything in life. Similarly as I grew up, I started expecting the same kind of love and acknowledgement from my friends and partners. Even after getting married, I couldn’t bear sharing my husband with any of his friends or family. I always fought with him if he spent time with his friends or family. I wanted him to be with me all the time. But over time, I realized that I was choking him with my over-dependence and finally he slipped away.
06/9“I made him feel he wasn’t good enough for me”
I have always been critical of people. I don’t know why but that’s how I have always been. But I wish I could have changed it before it destroyed my marriage. My husband was the sweetest and although he tried his best to make me happy and went extra miles to bring a smile on my face, I didn’t even try to appreciate his efforts at all. I made him feel he wasn’t good enough for me. Instead of letting him know that he was the best thing that ever happened to me, I just kept comparing him to my exes, who were the worst of people. Sometimes, I feel, my insecurities got the best of me.
07/9″I wish I had taken responsibility for my actions rather than blaming him for everything”
For years, me and my husband disagreed on many things. Every morning began with a new problem and ended with a new set of arguments. However, it is safe to say that much of the fight or the quarrel began because of me. There isn’t a day that goes by where I wish I had taken responsibility for my actions rather than blaming him for everything. I could have been the bigger person and resolved all the issues on myself. But I let my thoughts and insecurities poison our relationship.
08/9“I could have been more empathetic in our relationship, but I chose to make him feel like a loser. I wish I could change that”
My husband was a hard-working man, but everyday he came home with complaints and problems from work and shared with me. While initially I tried calming him down, but with time I stopped paying attention to his problems. Instead of telling him that he was the best version of himself, I told him to stop complaining all the time and get a hold on his emotions. I could have been more empathetic in our relationship, but I chose to make him feel like a loser.
09/9“He always tried to tweak the romance in our marriage, but I always made him feel childish about it, until he left me for the same.”
One thing I have learnt from my broken marriage is that romance is the key to a happy and a healthy marriage. The spark is what keeps the love alive and secures the bond between two partners. However, it was too late when I realized it. My husband always tried to tweak the romance in our marriage, but I always made him feel childish about it and in the end, he left me for the same. As heartbreaking as it is for me at present, I wish he finds someone who gives him the same amount of love.
01/9Zodiac matches not meant to be together
When it comes to relationships, zodiac signs may not be the ultimate solution to finding your significant other. However, it can tell you a lot about your personality and what may or may not appeal to you in a person. Whether you have a dominating nature or are an emotional soul, your partners will always have something in them that will draw you towards them. But that does not mean you’ll be the perfect match for one another. Not to say that your instincts failed you drastically. Therefore, to help you avoid unnecessary relationship problems in the future, here are 8 zodiac matches who are not meant to be together.
02/9Aries and Taurus
Besides being in love with one another, the two have nothing in common at all. While Aries is spontaneous and lives a fast-paced life, Taurus cannot handle surprises and loves to remain in his/her comfort zone. Although, they may click well together initially, their bond will slowly fade away in the long run.
03/9Pisces and Gemini
Pisces and Gemini see emotions differently. While Pisces is all about sensitivity and feelings, Gemini does not pay much attention to these aspects in a relationship. If these two zodiac signs come together, one will only end up getting hurt in the process.
04/9Cancer and Sagittarius
As opposed to a Cancerian’s emotional senses and its manipulative nature, Sagittarians are adventurous and independent. While a Cancerian may eventually become extremely clingy and dependent on their partners, a Sagittarian will break away from such toxicity.
05/9Leo and Scorpio
Both Leo and Scorpio are similar in their natures and probably that’s where they seem to clash. Besides being extremely dominating and opinionated, a Leo can never agree to his/her Scorpion partner and vice versa.
06/9Taurus and Sagittarius
Sagittarians are adventurous souls, always looking for excitement and something new to explore. While on the other hand, a Taurean is held back by his/her comfort. Even though the adventurous Sagittarian is ready to explore the world with its Taurean partner, they are hardly willing to make the sacrifice.
07/9Aquarius and Cancer
Aquarians love themselves some freedom and independence. No matter how deeply they are in love, they will not trade their individuality for anyone. That being said, Cancerians are totally opposite. They are emotionally dependent and cannot bear the idea of staying alone. The combination of the two never works, clearly because both are extremely different from one another.
08/9Virgo and Gemini
While it may have seemed all hearts and roses in the beginning, Virgo and Gemini slowly drift apart in the long run. The reason underlies in their totally opposite personalities. Gemini is all about fun and possessive by nature. They are also indecisive about their choices in life, which is what a Virgo hates. A Virgo on the other hand is a perfectionist and cannot tolerate flaws and as is known, Geminis are famous for the same.
09/9Capricorn and Leo
Leos are passionate and extremely intelligent. Similarly, Capricorns are pragmatist and know how to get their work done. Probably, this was why they fell in love for the first time. However, over time, one starts to realize how controlling and dominant a Leo is as opposed to a lazy and non-caring Capricorn. This is why they hardly make for a good match at all.