Are you with an obsessive lover?
What would you do for love? Some might cross seven seas to meet the lover. A few might even change cities and careers to be with the person he is in love with. Someone might stalk the lover and do the unthinkable to be with him. A lot of people blame love for the weird things it makes people do but no, love is not to be blamed because ever person responds to emotions differently. Currently, a popular web series have cringe-worthy scenes where an obsessive boyfriend turns random killer just to be with the girl he loves. This might be far from the truth in reality but we do have scary real-life incidents involving obsessive lovers, don’t we? Dating an obsessive lover could be very dangerous. Here are some signs to check if you are dating an obsessive lover.
Emotionally blackmails or threatens you
You should reconsider being with a person who emotionally blackmails or threatens you to be with him because the person knows how he can use your love as a weapon to manipulate you. In a healthy relationship, no partner must be forced to experience or witness such a bizarre and toxic show of love.
When your lover turns into a stalker
A relationship is all about trust. But there are some people who have this habit of keeping track of their lover’s activities. And thanks to social media, stalking a person is as easy as keeping track of activities in your own home. The stalking behaviour of your lover can start with something simple like tracking your live location using GPS for your safety to something as intense as landing at your friend’s party without any invitation just because he wants to be with you. Remember, this toxic behaviour of your lover should not be confused with concern and love.
Your lover insists on knowing all your passwords
Did you catch your boyfriend/girlfriend reading you and your BFF’s chat? Does your lover insist that you should share all your passwords (including your phone password) with him/her? This is a sign that you are dating a highly insecure person and insecurity can turn people into obsessive lovers.
When the person is too clingy
Most relationships have a picture-perfect beginning where the lovers want to share every detail of their daily life with each other. However, there are exceptions where this care to know about each other is replaced with overdependency. Does your partner often demand your attention for every minute thing? He/she wants both to should spend every moment together? Basically, your partner wants your world to revolve around him/her. Such clingy behaviour can be considered a red flag.
Your partner wants to be in touch with you constantly
We all seek attention at some point in time but it doesn’t mean your partner has the right to spam your inbox with irrelevant messages or incessantly call you throughout the day just to be in touch with you. The desire to be in constant touch with a lover is a subtle sign of obsessive behaviour.
Excessively jealous
Jealousy is an obsessed person’s best friend. Take it as a warking sign if your partner gets offended or grows jealous for trivial reasons like someone complimenting you or you spending an evening with friends. Jealousy and insecurity get worse when a person starts acting suspiciously to satisfy his whims and fancy. It’s better to avoid such people.