It’s the ultimate question when you start to get feelings for the guy you’re hanging out with or dating: Is he flirting with me or not?
Without flirtatious behaviour, there’s no spark. There HAS to be flirting on his and your part for whatever you’ve got going on to move forward.
If he flirts with you, it’s a massive sign that he’s into you and wants to take this forward.
The problem is, how do you even know when a guy is flirting? Beauty and Tips has got you covered.
Let’s take a look at…
He looks you in the eyes
If a guy isn’t interested, he won’t spend much time looking directly into your eyes. As he’s talking to you, he’ll look away; perhaps he’ll look around the bar or wherever it is you are. Maybe he’ll even look past you.
If a guy is interested in you and wants to flirt? He’ll look you in the eyes.
Now, we know what you’re thinking:
“It’s just good manners to look into someones eyes when you’re talking to them. My boss looks me in the eyes all the time! Does that mean he’s flirting with me, too?”
Nope. The difference is that a guy who’s flirting with you will look you in the eyes andhe’ll do other things at the same time. What other things? It all comes down to his body language, which we’ll discuss more later on.
He’ll be happy to see you
Ever been on those dates with guys who just don’t seem all that happy when they’re with you?
Sure, they’ll make conversation and they might even ask you a few questions but they just don’t seem all that happy to be hanging out with you. Something always seems to be on their mind.
If a guy is flirting with you, his outlook and demeanour will be the complete opposite whenever he’s in your company. He’ll be genuinely pleased to see you; he’ll brighten up, he’ll smile and talk enthusiastically. Each time he’s with you, he won’t be sad or pensive – he’ll be happy and eager to talk.
He touches you
Just think back to the times you’ve physically flirted with a guy; you’ve touched him, right?
You probably didn’t do anything too extreme, such as touch his chest or pinch his bum, but you probably lightly touched his arm at some point (probably when you were laughing).
It’s a natural thing to do when we’re flirting with guys; sometimes we’ll do it consciously, but sometimes we’ll do it unconsciously.
Maybe we’ll even gently squeeze a guy’s bicep as we bid them goodbye.
Guys touch women when they’re flirting, too. They also won’t be too invasive, but they’ll lightly touch your shoulder to give you a sign that they’re into you. If you give them a sign that it’s okay for them to do that, they’ll continue and you’ll know that you’re being flirted with.
He chats a lot and ask questions
Men can be really funny, and they love to tease us.
The best jokes between a man and a woman are inside jokes – ones only the man and the woman will understand.
To be able to make hilarious inside jokes, a guy has to get as much information out of you as possible, and the only way he can do this is by chatting to you loads and asking questions.
Then, he’ll use the information you give him as fodder with which to flirt with you at a later date.
Of course, there are other reasons why a guy will chat with you and ask questions. He genuinely likes you and wants to keep the conversation going. If it seems like he really wants to get to know you, it’s a sign that he’s flirting.
He doesn’t wait too long to text you
Anyone who’s seen the male-oriented movie Swingers will know all about the three-day texting rule. Even if you haven’t seen the movie you’ll know that some guys wait three days to text a girl after she’s given him her number, but in the movie the characters wait SIX days.
Why do guys abide by the three day rule? It’s generally because they think it makes them look indifferent, and that said indifference is what makes them so irresistible to women.
However, if a guy is flirting with you, you can guarantee that he’ll text you much sooner than three days after you’ve given him your number. In fact, it’s quite possible that he’ll text you later that same night.
And when you reply, he’ll reply to you pretty quickly (unless he’s really busy).
He remembers what you say
If a guy isn’t flirting with you, he probably isn’t interested in you.
And if he isn’t interested in you, he won’t make the extra effort to remember what you say.
In fact, remember what you say isn’t much effort to the guy who’s flirting with you. He becomes laser focused on you – nothing else in the room matters to him and nothing is going to distract him. This is all about you.
How do you know if he remembers everything you say? He’ll bring stuff up in the next conversation, ask questions or text you about stuff you’ve said when he gets home.
He laughs at your jokes
Yeahhhhh your jokes are kinda rubbish and you know that.
But he’s gonna laugh at them anyway.
Why? Because he’s totally flirting with you and likes you!
He might get nervous
Of course, not every guy who flirts with you will be nervous. Some men are flirting pros who won’t ever say something they didn’t intend to; they won’t stammer, hesitate, blush or say something totally ridiculous.
On the other hand, there are some really shy guys out there. If you’re hanging out with a guy who’s visibly nervous – he blushes a lot, fidgets etc – it’s a strong sign that he really wants to impress you and flirt with you – but is struggling.
He’ll look at your lips
Sure, he’ll look you in the eyes … but he’ll also look at your lips.
There’s literally no other reason why a man would look at your lips as you talk. Is he wondering what your teeth are like?!
Nope, – he’s wondering what it would be like kiss you on the lips.
He’s also wondering other things, but we won’t go into those. Ahem.
Back on track – a man looking at your lips is the most obvious sign that he’s into you and flirting with you. He knows exactly what he’s doing; he’s drawing to the attention to the fact that he’s wondering what it would be like to kiss you and he wants to make you think the same thing, too.
And naturally, you won’t be able to think about anything else.
He’ll Expose His Weaknesses and Your Strengths
“Aww you’re so good at that. I’m rubbish at it.”
This is classic flirting. He’ll playfully point out his weaknesses while highlighting how good you are at the same thing. If he does this? You’re being flirted with. Roll with it, girl!
He pins you against the wall (Kinda)
No, he’s not going to pin you against the wall in a violent fashion that says you won’t leave. Rather he’s going to “block” you by creating a sort of boundary between the two of you.
A normal move for a guy is to put one of his hands against the wall behind you. This kinda makes you trapped and hemmed in, but don’t be scared – it’s a common flirting tactic, and it means that he likes you!
Alternatively, he might just lean his head closer to yours so that you’ve got a bit of privacy in a crowded room.
He’ll be pointed towards you
Body language is usually the telltale sign that he’s flirting with you. If he seems otherwise nervous and you’re really not sure if he’s flirting with you or not, just take a look at his feet. If they’re pointed towards you, his body language has just given him away – he’s totally flirting with you (or at least trying).
If he finds out you have a common interest, he’s going to be SO excited.
He’ll squeeze his beer
If you guys are hanging out in a bar together and he suddenly starts to “squeeze” his beer – be it a glass or a bottle or a can – guess what? It doesn’t mean that he REALLY likes his beer.
Instead, it means that he REALLY likes you.
A lot of the time, the guy won’t even realise that he’s squeezing his beer – it will be done involuntarily.
But what on earth does it mean?
If a guy squeezes his beer while in the company of a woman, it tends to mean just one thing – his subconscious mind has got to thinking about certain body parts of hers, and he kinda feels like giving them a squeeze.
And, yes, weirdly enough he won’t even be aware that he’s doing this.
He’ll lower his voice almost to a whisper
If a guy likes you and wants to flirt with you, he’s not going to shout at you LIKE THIS!!
Instead, he’ll be a bit more sensual and refined; he’ll lower his voice almost to a whisper and speak to you very softly.
Again, he might not even be aware that he’s doing this. It’s purely biological and all part of the mating call process.
It doesn’t even matter where the two of you are: You could be in a crowded pub or in a quieter place. He’ll still speak in hushed tones to you as he bids to ramp up the attraction and desire.
He perks up when he sees you
HOW TO TELL IF A GUY IS FLIRTING WITH YOU
When you walked into the room and he hadn’t noticed, he seemed a bit bored. Maybe he was playing with his phone, sighing and looked as though he wanted to be somewhere else.
Then he noticed you and a strange thing happened – he instantly perked up.
What does this mean? The most obvious meaning is that he likes you and wants to flirt.
Notice how his behaviour changes when he’s around you. Does his mood brighten? Does he talk more and laugh more?
Guys go the extra effort to tell jokes to someone they’re flirting with. If he’s not flirting with someone and actually kinda bored? He won’t tell those jokes.
He somehow ends up in your line of sight
You’re at a party and it’s pretty busy. There are a LOT of guys here, but somehow that one cute guy keeps ending up in your line of sight.
How is he managing this? Is it a coincidence? Is it magic?
He knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s trying to grab your attention and hopes you’ll notice him.
And, yes, he’s actively flirting with you and wants to party. So get involved!
He’ll like your photos on Facebook
Facebook is a good place to flirt. Guys and girls know this.
And the most subtle flirting technique of all? It’s liking someone’s photos.
Every single new photo you upload from now on? He’s gonna “like” them if he’s flirting with you.
And then …
He’ll write on your Facebook wall
After flirting with you on Facebook for a bit by liking your new photos, his next move is to write on your wall.
This could be something as innocent as a link to a song, a funny article or a funny video.
Either way, if he’s been liking your photos recently and then goes as far as posting stuff to your wall, it means he likes you a lot and wants to keep flirting.
And then …
He’ll message you
Once he’s liked enough photos and posted on your wall, he’ll shoot you a flirty message.
It will be light and maybe kinda funny.
It’s on – he likes you.