Number 1. SEX
For many, sex is the main reason for marrying; to avoid the
temptation of falling into sexual misconduct, they would hurriedly marry.
Others too will marry to prevent unexpected pregnancy during their courtship. I
imagined how promiscuous i would become if i did not think of marriage or
decide to marry in the shortest possible time. One foolish reason I married was
to prevent any sexual misconduct, unexpected pregnancy and to enjoy sexual
pleasure without fear or remorse.
Number 2. HEAVEN
Have you wondered how many have died in their sins? Good
people have died in their sins because of one little addiction they could not
overcome. In order to overcome that sin that affects almost every single
person, I had to marry. For me, marriage was my key to salvation and heaven. As
a devoted Christian or religious person, if you have a sexual sin problem and
you do not know how to solve it, your best bet would be to marry; since
marriage seems to be the safe haven to enjoy sex legally. For many, if they
could overcome their sexual sin, they would be relieved of guilt and addiction,
thus, making marriage their salvation. One of the foolish reasons I married was
so that in case I died even one week into my marriage, I would make it to
heaven. Lol!
Number 3. FEELINGS
Like they say, love is the accumulation of feelings. The
higher the feelings, the more you call in love. At one point, my feelings went
very high, and i did what anyone in love would do…marry! Feelings are the
first indicators of any attraction; without it, it becomes very difficult to
know if you love someone or you’re loved by someone. When you begin to have
that uncontrollable and unusual feeling for someone and the only reason to
explain the feelings is that it makes you happy, then you know you’re in love.
If you can measure the feelings you get when you reach a high frequency, you
would know that it is time to marry. One of the foolish reasons I married was
because my feelings frequency level hit the rooftop.
Number 4. HER FACE AND LEGS
I often would admire her face and legs. I would daydream
about it and wonder how anyone in this world could have such smooth face and
nice legs. Hmm…’Let me marry her, I thought. So I did. Who marries because of
fine legs and face nowadays!? PS: I did not mean that she used make up kit to
improve the smoothness of her legs and face; she had natural done legs and face.
Number 5. ARGUMENTS
I almost always won arguments. Lol! yea, I did. For some
reason, i did not understand why she made me always ‘win’ arguments. It made me
feel good about myself but also made me wonder what sort of a woman she was. I
simply wanted to marry someone i can ‘win’ over and over… someone who makes
me feel ‘better’ and brings out the best in me. So i decided to marry her. Have
you ever argued with someone and at the end you felt very incapable and
useless? Have you ever argued with someone who made you feel like your ideas
are never good enough? Arguing with my partner used to be like that sometimes
but most times, she would allow me have my way during arguments just to feed my
manly ego. I realized that after I seemed to have won an argument, I would go
to her to console and encourage her then I end up accepting her point of view.
Well, for me, the fact that I felt good about winning an initial argument made
me happy. One foolish reason I married was to win arguments.
Number 6: She ate dog meat
How weird! Upon all the delicacies she could find, dog meat
was a delicacy where she came from. She danced funny…stumping of feet on the
ground as if dodging thousand cockroaches in a room. She was the reason I first
visited Navrongo in the upper east region of Ghana. She was the reason I first
ate dog meat; that was her delicacy. As a matter of fact, our marriage would be
incomplete if I did not provide a dog to her family. I realized I was going to
marry from a group of people who enjoyed eating dogs; For some foolish reason,
I did not mind; after all, dog meat tastes delicious. In short, I saw her clan
to be different or Unique as you might think.
Number 7: WORK & PAY
My imagination about marriage was that after marriage, my
wife’s salary will be mine too. I imagined how we will share our salaries, buy
a car and build a house from it. All these day dreams pushed me to marry her
oo. How many marry because they know their spouses have stable jobs?
People who see marriage as a business would always prefer
spouses who have a stable job so they can help financially; but Is that not a
foolish reason to marry? Who nurtures your children when both of you are busy
at work? Who prepares and keeps the home when both of you are busy enriching
someone else? Well, before I married, I thought like a business man; I wanted
her to work very hard to help keep the home.
We’ve been married for almost 3 years and she is weaning our
child and chasing her dreams. It wasn’t the kind of business plan I had for her
but we would get there hopefully. Work and pay seems to be trending lifestyle
recently.
Number 8: Strong Children
Before I married, I heard and read online that ladies from
the Northern part of Ghana were strong and hardworking…i too, wanted a strong
woman to produce stronger children for me. What a way to understand science.
LOL! Indeed, she looks soft but very strong at heart. I hope our children would
have such strength. Is strength transferable?
Number 9: Glass Free
Years ago, people who wore glasses were seen to be bright or
intelligent, thus were very much admired by me. Now, i see people who wear
glasses as ‘physically challenged’; why would i marry a physically challenged
person, i sighed! Therefore, i purposed in my heart to marry someone whose
family did not have any history of sight disorder. When i met my wife, she
passed the test…lol! I foolishly decided to marry because she didn’t see at
glasses.
Number 10: SINGER
Listening to soothing music is one of the things i enjoy
doing. I also enjoy choral tunes so i wanted to marry someone who sings chorale
or is generally, a good singer. I imagined how she would sing to me in a lovely
serenade mood and also how I would compose songs for her to sing. Immediately,
I zoomed in to find a singer to marry. Well, I found one; she sings in a choir
and composes songs too. One foolish reason I married was to have her sing for
me every night. What’s yours?
In conclusion, I am only married for a few years and I have
not regretted all the foolish reasons I married. They all turned out for my
good.
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